So, after studying weeks at a time for your exam, you’re in study groups for some course work you can’t quite wrap your head around, and yet, you’re still receiving failing grades.

I understand how it can be embarrassing to fail a class; in high school I failed my ninth grade math class. The only reason I technically passed was because my grade was curved to 50%. But, my teacher at the time called my house and left a message saying that I had failed the course. I felt terrible. But, now in retrospect, I can see a few things I did wrong and how to help you guys in case any of you have the same problems.

In high school and university, it’s easy to ask for help if you know who to go to. In high school, you may have an easier time asking for help because professors sometimes are busy doing their own research for their own projects. I’ve heard some horror stories about those entirely uninterested in helping their students even though it’s their job; there are some teachers like that in high school (I have my own stories about experiences with poor teachers) but for the most part, someone is always willing to help you. The first thing you need to do if you don’t understand something is swallow your pride and speak to your teachers. They know their stuff. If something is unclear, speaking to them would be the first place to start so you can ask your own questions and meet with them for as long as you need to.

However, sometimes when we ask for help the final result is still us being confused. But, don’t be discouraged. In college or university, there are TAs to go to (who can actually be quite helpful) and in high school you can always go to another teacher, which is what I did. Clinics are often held for those struggling and despite the fact that it’s an afternoon of studying, it’s worse to fail a class when all you had to do was donate a few hours of extra studying.

Forming study groups with people can be very beneficial as well. If you’re confused, chances are your friends are too- even if they aren’t, even better- they will be able to help you, too. Plus, an added bonus of studying with friends is removal of the awkwardness some people face when they need to ask for help.

The most important thing to remember is that you need to ask for help when you need it. It’s a good life lesson. You don’t need to fail a course because you’re feeling a little ashamed or you think you can just study harder and do it on your own. If you can’t, just admit it. Professors and teachers really do appreciate the effort from someone who is willing to learn. There will always be someone in an institution to help you. Use them.