Introversion; It’s OK to Be an Introvert
I’m often teased by those my own age for not going out to bars, parties, or nightclubs (I haven’t even set foot in a nightclub). I’m not a big drinker, I don’t smoke, and I’ve never tried weed. I’m basically the kid your parents want you to be friends with.
Inevitably, this led to me to being called “no fun” or “boring” and I befriended less than ten people in university and even fewer during my years in high school. But, that’s the way I like it.
Ah, the introverts; a not-so rare species of human beings who don’t like to go out and socialize as often as the extroverts. It’s bizarre for some to hear that a Friday night can just as easily be enjoyed watching a movie marathon at home than spending the night at a party. Crazy, I know.
Contrary to popular belief, some lead great social lives (myself notwithstanding), but just need time alone to refuel after a long day or social event. And being shy and being introverted aren’t even considered to be the same thing by some psychologists.
The silver lining to being introverted in university is that there is still plenty to do and get involved with. There should be tons of clubs and societies on your campus that will probably only meet once a week to discuss their plans, or how they want to go about hosting an event. You can meet up with them, socialize, make new friends, and be a part of something that interests you.
If joining a club isn’t really your thing you can also form a study group. You guys can meet whenever you want to discuss material, bum ideas off one another, and later, go for drinks at your local pub.
Clubs also host an assortment of events throughout the year that you’re more than welcome to attend with friends or even fly solo. If you’re lucky, some of the events offer free food so even if you do go alone you don’t have to deal with the much dreaded question of “Can I have some?” No you may not.
Being introverted isn’t a bad thing. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It gets a bad rap because our society pretty much consists of extroverts but that doesn’t make us any less valuable. It also doesn’t have to stop you from doing anything in university or prevent you from making friends. Taking the time to refuel for however long you need to, especially in university, is crucial for keeping yourself healthy without thinking you need to be everywhere all the time in order to make friends. Popularity contests ended in high school ( and should end altogether).
Now, being shy and introverted is another story. I mean… let’s just say there’s a reason I’m such good friends with my dog.